I feel your struggle. Romantic orientation is so fucking hard like WHAT COUNTS AS ROMANTIC ATTRACTION. In my case I know i’m not aro because it doesn’t quite fit? Like the concept of kissing seems quite nice, but I cant work out who I’d want to kiss. And like, which genders I’d be up for kissing.
/agressively doesnt understand my own romantic orientation
sometimes I think at least 30% of deciding on aro was just giving up trying to understand what romantic attraction even is
like, fuck it, I don’t have time to be stressing about this I don’t even know what makes a romantic partner different from a friend? But like, a close friend?
(I think that’s why I like Sherlock Holmes so much because that’s the friendship, right? Or Crowley and Aziraphale, or something. A friend that everyone thinks you’re in a romantic relationship with but you’re just besties (which reminds me to get back into Rizzoli and Isles) - but how do you define romantic relationship as different from best friends i do not know
do you see
do you see my problem